There is not necessarily a right or wrong way to get ready for bed.
It is not “good” or “bad” to include certain activities and exclude or neglect others.
There are only different ways. It just is what it is. More specifically, it is what you find value in, which is reflected through behavior. When you design a bedtime routine that you value, chances are you’re more likely to follow through with it.
Certain bedtime tasks have more perceived benefits than drawbacks to each of us. We tend to enjoy doing those things that we benefit from most. Look at the list of typical bedtime activities below. If you could ONLY choose three to do in a night, which three have the most benefits for your family?
- Brush teeth
- Wash hands and face
- Put pajamas on
- Kiss goodnight
- Bath or shower
- Pray or Meditate
Think about why you valued those 3 tasks over the other choices. Is it health, nurturing relationships, educational, cultural, or spiritual? Do any other bedtime tasks fit those values? Without being over-ambitious, you could add on to this routine over time.
Behavior is tied to values. We enjoy doing what we value; therefore, we do it frequently and with joy. When we are subordinating to doing what we “should do,” it sometimes gets neglected. It just is what it is. Now you can stop judging yourself for not being the perfect parent and move on.
How to Create a Bedtime Routine You’ll Do, For Real!
- Put the three tasks you chose from above in order
- Write it down and post it
- Set a bedtime timer to begin the routine each night.
The key to any routine’s success is consistency.
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